om mig som en ENFP…..

På Pinterest finner jag allt möjligt. Kika, läser och “pinnar”. Bland annat en hel del om “min” personlighet enligt Myers Briggs test om personligheter – Jag är en ENFP. Och mycket av det jag finner bekräftar den bild jag ser av mig när jag vänder kameran emot mig själv.

E – Extroverted.
N – Intuition.
F – Feeling. 
P – Perception. 

What I dread most as an ENFP? Monotony
If ENFP embodied a noun? Curiosity

It doesn’t interest me what you do for a living. I want to know what you ache for – and if you dare to dream of meeting your heart’s longing. It doesn’t interest me how old you are. I want to know if you will risk looking like a fool – for love – for your dreams – for the adventure of being alive. – Oriah Mountain Dreamer

Och så snubblade jag över denna lista med saker som varje ENFP önskar att andra kände till och förstod om sig. Så känner även jag. En lista med 30 olika punkter. Läs och lär. Tack!

 

1. “I don’t want to be judged as super extroverted, extremely confident and shallow. I want introverts to know that we can stay at home having deep conversations. I don’t want to be dismissed simply for being an extrovert.”

2. “We are capable leaders. It’s just that our leadership style is not – for lack of a better word – authoritarian.”

3. “I contradict myself a lot because I’m always looking for new possibilities. There are so many routes, paths, chances, doors, and odysseys to cross and tackle that I’ll never feel satisfied until I do it all!”

4. “We are actually really good at making and keeping plans, both in our personal lives, and in project management/deadline situations at work.”

5. “I’m not nosy or looking to know things for any nefarious reason. I genuinely LOVE all your differences and I want to know how you came to be exactly who you are.”

6. “I don’t like being treated like a stereotype. I don’t want to treat you like one, either.”

7. “I’m a scatter brain but it doesn’t mean I’m short on attention – it just means I am intensely interested in too many things.”

8. “I don’t want solutions. I just want to be heard and understood.”

9. “Yes, I am THAT curious.”

10. “I have a LOT of big feelings and yes, I operate out of them. BUT I am capable of discipline and study when I am truly invested in something. I deeply value knowledge and thinking processes but in the end facts will still be run through my ‘feeling’ filter. Sorry (not sorry)!”

11. “ENFPs are passionate, but it doesn’t mean we’re irrational.”

12. “We’re not as confident as you think; we just want to be loved!”

13. “When we are quiet and withdrawn we are actually ok – we’re more introverted than you think we are.”

14. “I’ll be totally different tomorrow; in fact I may not even be here!”

15. “I’m scatter-brained but I’m not dumb. I notice a lot and I am quite intuitive about people’s unspoken emotions and thoughts–but don’t always share everything I know in order to keep the peace. Emotional arguments are EXHAUSTING.”

16. “I tend not to judge but that doesn’t mean I don’t have values. I just don’t see how immediately categorizing someone and then dismissing them helps anyone. I can probably find common ground with almost anyone of any type, if you promise to meet me at least a quarter of the way.”

17. “I don’t need you to fix my problem! I need you to shut up and let me vent!”

18. “I can commit and I do commit quite strongly in relationships, but will walk away once I realize it isn’t working no matter what I do. I stay in relationships longer than I probably should but that’s because I never want to say ‘what if..?’ I will not be on my deathbed with regrets. And I think about that a lot.”

19. “When we ask you to come over it doesn’t have to be anything fancy. Come over in your sweats and watch a couple reruns of something. We just need an hour of human contact and we are happy.”

20. “I will get that project finished, even though its boring as batshit. Thank you for helping me stay focused, but don’t ride me.”

21. “I’m not forgetful… I just literally can’t focus when you’re talking about what your coworker’s friend did last week…. I’m too busy trying to understand the implications of finding water on mars…. why did it take so long to find? Where did they find it? I should look this up.”

22. “We can do hard rational logic, it just doesn’t look like that when we’re all bouncy and enthusiastic.”

23. “Yes I’m social, no that doesn’t mean I want to party 24/7. I need my alone time, too.”

24. “We deserve to be taken seriously just like anyone else! Maybe we have that childlike curiosity and enthusiasm, but it doesn’t mean that we deserve to be looked down upon or treated like children because we’re open to all sorts of possibilities.”

25. “I wish other people understood the whole ‘ I honestly can’t make up my mind’ thing. Sometimes I have to try out different things (careers, goals, people…) before I can find a good match and even then I find myself pondering greener pastures. Drives us all crazy.”

26. “Just because I love people doesn’t mean I’m always happy and just because I’m always talking doesn’t mean I’m stupid. You might think you know me well but you probably really don’t. All you’ve seen so far is the part of me I’ve chosen to show you. There’s a lot more hiding you have yet to figure out. And yes I do really love you already as much as I act like I do. I love everyone. That’s just who I am. But don’t think you understand me perfectly yet. And don’t judge me because that’s the one thing that’ll make me mad.”

27. “Even though we’re highly expressive and sometime come across heedless, we are very level-headed and deep thinkers.”

28. “I have many, many, countless, endless musings that run through my head! I can create an entire fantasy of a timeline in the blink of an eye, and I’ll act like it’s a reality for a few moments. (For example, if I meet someone new, I may very well muse over the possibilities and fantasies of pursuing them, and dating them) and I’ll get super stoked about these possibilities and fantasies. It doesn’t mean I ever actually expect them to become reality, but I will be JUST as excited about them simply because for a moment, in that moment, it was a reality in my mind.”

29. “ENFPs are not stupid! We lead with extroverted intuition so we might be a little more in our head and we may be a little overdramatic and passionate at times but we sincerely enjoy learning and growing too!”

30. “Please be more patient with us. It’s hard to focus on the practical side of things when we can imagine a much better world. That’s just the way we’re wired.”

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Big Magic by Elizabeth Gilbert

Yep, just finished reading Big Magic – Creative Living Beyond Fear by the fearless Elizabeth Gilbert. (Enter a give-away for the book here!) And as my habit goes here are a few notes and quotes from the book.


“Do you have the courage to bring forth the treasures that are hidden within you?
The universe buries strange jewels inside us all, and then stands back to see if we can find them. The hunt to uncover those jewels – that is creative living. The courage to go on that hunt in the first place – that´s what separates a mundane existence from a more enchanted one. “
– As I this morning read about research that again had confirmed the importance of a “good” experience of school (you´ll find it in Swedish here) my first thought today was that we have to put every effort into enabling all and everyone to be curious and brave enough to go on that hunt. Help someone by showing up and do that thing that makes them put a marble in their jar so that you earn their trust.

You do not need a permission slip from the principal´s office to live a creative life. Or if you worry that you need a permission slip – THERE, I just gave it to you. I just wrote it on the back of an old shopping list. Consider yourself fully accredited. Now go make something. “

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“It matters/It matters not. 
Build space in your head for this paradox. Build as mush space as you can. Build even more space. You will need it. And then go deep within that space – as far in as you can possibly go – and make absolutely whatever you want to make. It´s nobody´s business but your own.”
Sending shivers down my spine, and arms, and legs. And then back up again. To my neck. And doing swirls from side to side. This is so true for me. I realize just now that this might be where people misunderstand me och believe that they don´t understand me. Because I have this really deep within me and feel that I have had it in my “program” since I was born. That I can see the paradox. That I can be with both sides. That there is no universal truth. Even that these two sides might not be the points of opposite. That the line that they now appear on, but in different directions, is actually a continuum. And the paradoxes in themselves are attached to invisible other continuums running in very different directions. Like a big network. And all that matters to you are you and what you do. Not what others believe.
I would like to encourage us all to really build space for these paradoxes in ourselves. The world would become a different place.

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“Marcus Aurelius writes to himself: Do what nature demands. Get a move on – if you have it in you – and don´t worry whether anyone will give you credit for it. And don´t go expecting Plato´s Republic; be satisfied with even the smallest progress, and treat the outcome of it all as unimportant.”
– The second-century Roman emperor reassures to himself that it is ok not to be Plato. Yes of course it is ok. Just keep momentum. So true way back then and still true today. And I also really like the part of treating the outcome as unimportant. There is more in that I need to ponder upon it for a while longer before I can find what it tickles within me. I just feel the tickling at this point.

“The work wants to be made, and it wants to be made through you”

“The outcome cannot matter. Fierce trust asks you to stand strong within this truth: You are worthy, dear one, regardless of the outcome. You will keep making your work, regardless of the outcome. You will keep sharing your work, regardless of the outcome. You were born to create, regardless of the outcome. You will never lose trust in the creative process, even when you don´t understand the outcome.”
– Tickling again. Tickling at my curiosity and at my fear. What would I put out there? What work apart from the one I am already putting out? Is there something else inside me that I need to bring forward to the world?
What are you not showing, doing, putting out there? Do you know? And what is it that stops us from doing it?


 

These are some of the highlights that came to me while reading. And now I have put them out for you along with some of my reflections. And if this tickles something within you or not is not for me to value och judge. If it happens it happens.

Thank you for reading!

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